Why do women prefer to have sex with their eyes closed? What's the secret behind it?

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There are many things in life that people often overlook, only realizing their significance when others mention them. One man wrote in a letter, "I like making love in dim light. I've noticed that my wife seems like a different person then, more beautiful than before. I love looking at her. I've also noticed that I'm always the one looking at her; she never looks at me, always keeping her eyes closed."
What is she thinking?
First, it should be said that when a woman enters a state of sexual arousal, blood flow increases, and endocrine function kicks in, resulting in a flushed face, radiant and elastic skin, and a naturally more attractive appearance.
So why does this wife always keep her eyes closed?
That's another topic. Sexual health counseling has found that men's willingness to look at women with their eyes wide open is not just for visual pleasure, but more importantly, to observe the reactions on the woman's face and determine the effectiveness of their actions, thus gaining psychological satisfaction and mental pleasure. During sex, most women prefer to keep their eyes closed (though we don't rule out occasional blinking), and they don't want to open them for a long time afterward. Why don't women keep their eyes open and watch their partners make love like men do? There's clearly more to it than meets the eye.
Many listeners are probably wondering about this right now.
If any of you are interested in this question, think back to your own sexual experience. Generally, all the actions are performed by the man, so he not only has to exert effort but also needs to gather feedback from his partner to adjust his behavior. In contrast, women bear much less responsibility; they can focus entirely on their mental activity to experience and enjoy the sensations. Since the goal is to experience and enjoy, closing their eyes is certainly preferable.
Although women keep their eyes closed, their mental activity never stops. In other words, it's precisely because women don't need to invest as much physical effort in sex that their mental activity is heightened. Of course, in these situations, their imaginations aren't entirely unrelated to the ongoing sex. But since it's imagination, it's not an objective repetition of reality, but rather a beautification of it. For example, if the environment during sex isn't ideal, they can imagine themselves under a blue sky with white clouds; if their partner's movements aren't perfect, they can imagine themselves being overwhelmed by those movements; if they're in a bad mood during sex, they can imagine themselves feeling wonderful; they can even imagine themselves being extremely satisfied even when their sexual experience is just average. Since imagination has such wonderful uses, why keep your eyes open? If opening your eyes means your beautiful imaginary world is destroyed by reality, wouldn't that be a huge disappointment?
I think many husbands, after hearing this explanation, will breathe a sigh of relief: "Ah, so that's how it is!" That's all their wives are thinking about when they close their eyes.
Yes. Ultimately, a wife's imagination is simply to enhance sexual pleasure. Men might find this interesting, but it's necessary to remind husbands not to get too excited yet; serious issues are yet to come. Some have proposed the idea that before sexual tension is released, men's facial muscles are tense, even spasming, resulting in an unpleasant expression, which is why women are unwilling to open their eyes. They prefer to close their eyes and imagine that they are with another handsome man.
Isn't this absurd? I think few people could accept this, at least no one would dare to openly admit it to their husbands.
You can say this view is absurd, and whether or not one dares to admit it is another matter. This cannot negate the fact that, according to sex experts, a considerable number of women have had such fantasies during sex and can use them to increase their sexual arousal. Once this fact is understood, many men feel ashamed, thinking that their own image and ability are inadequate, which is why women have such fantasies. And many women themselves will also suppress these fantasies. In fact, both of these ideas are wrong. This kind of fantasies by women has nothing to do with men, nor can it be said that there is anything wrong with their character; it is simply a positive means for a passive woman to express her initiative.
A wife with a very close relationship with her husband shared her sexual fantasies with me in this way: "When these fantasies first appeared, I was terrified, even suspecting that I harbored sinful thoughts deep within my heart. So I tried hard to capture that image. Gradually, I discovered that the image was very unfamiliar; sometimes I couldn't even see him clearly, as if he were an abstract existence. I was certain he wasn't my husband, but I felt that he could be one with my husband in many ways. Perhaps I was too romantic when I was young, always longing to meet a prince charming, which led to these fantasies. Later, I decided to tell my husband about these thoughts. He is a very open-minded and reasonable person. After listening to my story, he told me not to pay attention to it and simply to treat this image as another incarnation of him. After doing as he suggested, my fantasies actually began to decrease. When that image appeared, I no longer felt uneasy as before; instead, I found it quite interesting."
Sexual life is rich and varied, and it's not terrible for things to happen that don't conform to our traditional understanding. But there is one point I need to clarify. Sexological research shows that the more fantastical and unrealistic a sexual fantasy is, the less negative its impact. Conversely, the more incomprehensible and realistic a sexual fantasy is, the greater the threat it poses to the actual sexual partner.
During sexual intercourse, sexual imagination is encouraged as a catalyst for sexual pleasure. To avoid unpleasant problems, when engaging in sexual imagination, try to make it as fantastical and unrealistic as possible. After all, it's just imagination; it's in your mind, and no one else knows. For example, you can imagine that you're having sex with a favorite movie actress, or imagine yourself in a scene from a novel. A male friend once said in a consultation that he imagines his wife as Diana, and without this imagination, he cannot reach orgasm. I positively affirmed his imagination. I think that if this gentleman can maintain this kind of imagination forever without problems (since his wife doesn't know), his wife will always be as young, beautiful, sexy, and charming as the ideal woman we admire, and will never become an unpleasant, haggard housewife. Conversely, I disapprove of overly specific and realistic fantasies, such as imagining one's husband or wife as a colleague one admires.
One wife experienced problems because of such fantasies. During sex with her husband, nearing climax, she lost control and called out the name of a male colleague she worked with in the same office. This resulted in significant tension in their marriage for a long time. Because of this incident, her husband constantly suspected her of having an affair with that colleague, and the wife was unable to clear her name. This is a lesson worth learning.

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