Various positions to orgasm

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Sexual positions are a recurring topic, with erotic illustrations dating back to ancient times and numerous summaries available online. Here, I'll only share my personal experience, discussing details to pay attention to in common positions, or the key points of positions that might be novel to some. Since this is based on my personal experience, it naturally has limitations and may not be applicable to everyone. Feel free to use it as a reference, and I welcome your additions. Thank you. First, let's start with 69, as it's a common foreplay, and many people begin with oral sex with their first partner before actually having sex. I

personally prefer 69, but I can never maintain it for long because both of us are focused on our own enjoyment and neglect stimulating each other, making it difficult to achieve simultaneous pleasure. So, this position is fine to try occasionally, but ultimately, it's best to separate oral sex. When giving oral sex to your partner, they can focus on enjoying your tenderness, while you can concentrate on observing their reactions and adjusting your stimulation methods. Once they've achieved a certain level of satisfaction, you can take turns, allowing both of you to experience greater pleasure.

In my experience, my boyfriend usually gives me oral sex at the beginning of sex. After I'm aroused and even reach orgasm, he'll eagerly penetrate me. He gives me oral sex between ejaculations, partly out of gratitude for the orgasm he gave me, and partly to prepare for the next erection. I think just as men enjoy watching a woman's clitoris become wet and juicy from being dry, women also enjoy the feeling of that soft little penis gradually growing bigger and harder in their mouths. So I prefer to take that cool little thing into my mouth after he's ejaculated (after washing, of course) – it's much more fun than the already hot rolling pin. When starting

the missionary position

, the woman usually opens her legs for easier penetration. There are two ways to open the legs: one is to open them to the sides. If you're flexible, you can open them wider to give your partner a stronger sensory stimulation; if you're less flexible, you can wrap your legs around his waist and hips. Secondly, the legs can be spread at a 90-degree angle or an acute angle to the body, with the woman's legs between the two partners. Those with good flexibility can place their legs on the partner's shoulders, while those with less flexibility can bend their knees in front of their chest and have the man press down on their calves. This position is slightly tighter than a side-open position and is more stimulating for women who cannot contract their vaginal muscles or whose muscles are more relaxed. Personally, I can't reach orgasm when my legs are spread open; I have to lower my legs and squeeze them tightly, with the man's legs on the outside of my body. This allows me to reach orgasm quickly because the friction on the clitoris is very effective. However, this position requires a high degree of coordination from the man, and his penis must have a certain length and hardness, otherwise it's easy for it to slip out, or he might not be able to move at all.

So how should the man move in this position? When she is flat, her vagina is almost horizontal, so you need to have a certain degree of flexibility in your waist and abdomen, using the muscles from your buttocks to your chest and abdomen to move your penis from back to front. The movements are similar to samba, but you can do it even if you haven't practiced it before. My boyfriend hadn't, but he became very skilled after mastering the technique. The movements don't need to be large, but they can be very quick. In fact, sometimes small, rapid thrusts are more effective than strong, large-amplitude thrusts. I often experience three or four orgasms in a row with this technique.

Another point to mention is that you're almost lying on top of her, but don't actually lie on top of her; be careful not to crush her (you're a guy weighing a hundred or two hundred pounds!). Use your knees and elbows to support your weight. Why did I say elbows instead of hands? Because your hands need to be free to caress her breasts (especially the nipples). When a woman is nearing orgasm, the nipples act as a switch; stimulating these two points directly connects to the G-spot in the vagina, leading to a rapid orgasm. Of course, if your arms aren't long enough, you can use one hand for support and the other elbow to stimulate one of her nipples, achieving the same effect, although it might take longer. One point to add is that many men find it difficult to handle when a woman's legs are tightly closed, because the stimulation is too intense. The vagina also tightens considerably, and even the slightest movement, or even without him moving but with just a slight contraction from the woman, can cause him to ejaculate. Therefore, this position is suitable for men with more sexual experience who know how to control ejaculation, how to appropriately distract themselves, and how to control their abdominal muscles for effective movement. Many people like the

woman-on-top

position, but few achieve good coordination. By coordination, I mean that not only should the woman move on top, but the man should also be active on the bottom; and how should the woman on top move to both satisfy herself and provide sufficient stimulation to the man? There are

three types of woman-on-top positions: squatting, sitting (kneeling), and prone—some combine squatting and kneeling, evolving into kneeling on one knee and squatting with the other leg bent. The squatting position mainly involves up-and-down movement, which provides stronger stimulation for the man. Personally, I don't reach orgasm in this position because the clitoris doesn't contact the partner. Therefore, I generally use the latter two positions.

In the kneeling position, both partners' pubic bones are pressed together, allowing the woman to use her waist strength to move forward, backward, left, right, and even rotate. The man can use both hands to caress the woman's breasts simultaneously, or he can use one hand to caress a breast and the other to hold her waist, providing support for his movements. The man must not think of this as merely watching a performance; if he does, his penis will soften, failing to provide sufficient stimulation, and her movements on top will be ineffective. Therefore, he must concentrate, keeping his penis erect to meet her movements and help her reach orgasm. Another variation of the kneeling position involves the woman slightly raising her buttocks, leaning forward, and holding onto the headboard with both hands, allowing for kissing. This also provides space for the man to coordinate his movements on top, allowing him to bend his knees and thrust forcefully. When done correctly, this often leads to synchronized orgasms.

Finally, the last prone position is perhaps less common, at least I haven't seen many descriptions of it in posts. The woman lies on top of the man, supporting her weight with her knees and hands, while her waist moves like a man's to create thrusting motions. Towards the climax, I also liked to squeeze my legs together and then use his penis as a fulcrum to quickly and slightly shake my hips, creating simultaneous stimulation of my G-spot and clitoris, making it easy to reach orgasm. By the way, here's a funny story that led me to discover a method for vaginal contraction. It was shortly after I started having sex with my first love, in the woman-on-top position. I was riding him with my back to him, and after a while, I wanted to face him, but I didn't want to pull out. So I tried to squeeze his penis, rubbing my legs together and turning around. Halfway through, he burst out laughing, his face flushed, and told me he had ejaculated. Haha, that was the first time I made him ejaculate in the top position, because he said the squeezing and rotating was incredibly stimulating. That experience taught me two techniques: first, actively contracting my muscles to squeeze his penis; second, understanding that the penis is very sensitive to rotational stimulation, so during oral sex, you can use your mouth to envelop it and rotate your head, letting the penis rotate between your lips and tongue, which he will enjoy immensely.

Rear-entry

is one of the most primitive and convenient positions. It can be done standing, kneeling, or lying on your side. As someone mentioned earlier, in this position, the man can free his hands to care for the woman's breasts and clitoris. Indeed, if she stands up and turns around, she can even kiss you. If you're doing rear-entry off the bed, you can even do it facing a mirror, watching yourselves together – it might not be any less exciting than watching porn. However, many men are lazy when doing rear-entry. They either neglect to caress the nipples or the clitoris, often just holding their partner's hips and thrusting mindlessly – perhaps the primal feeling of rear-entry makes the man so absorbed that he forgets about the woman's feelings. In fact, many women cannot reach orgasm this way.

After my boyfriend has been thrusting for a while, he finds that he's not stimulating me enough, so he usually pushes me down onto the bed, and we lie on top of each other. Of course, his center of gravity still needs to be supported by his knees and elbows on either side of my body. Then I slightly raised one hip bone, and he reached out one hand to stroke my clitoris, while the other hand reached through my neck to one of my nipples. He then whispered sweet nothings in my ear as he thrust in and out. I squeezed my legs together and straightened my body, and I was able to orgasm.

As mentioned at the beginning, I don't intend to explain every position in detail here. I'll just briefly explain some details that I think are important in commonly used positions, as well as the key points of movements for positions that may be new to some friends. So, in addition to the basic positions mentioned earlier, there are also positions where the woman lies on her side and the man kneels between her legs, positions where the woman lies on the edge of the bed and the man stands or lies on top of her, and the "lotus position" (where the man and woman sit facing each other, the name originating from a Tantric practice), and so on. I won't go into detail about each one; you can explore the key points of movements that suit both of you.

Below, I will talk about a few less commonly used positions, which I have some personal insights into and offer for those who want to try them, such as standing facing each other, or the man holding the woman while she stands up. Before discussing this, I want to offer some advice on the psychological qualities of women seeking orgasm.

As a woman, firstly, you must understand that enjoying sexual pleasure and orgasm is a natural thing. Don't be shy or have any reservations; only then can you completely open up and immerse yourself. Secondly, you must have confidence; every woman can experience orgasm if she is willing. "Perseverance" is often a crucial factor in a woman's ability to reach orgasm. Many times, if you persevere, you can reach that climax, but if you give up at the last moment, you may miss out on orgasm altogether.

Of course, this "perseverance" is something both partners need to possess; the man also needs to persevere with her at key moments. Specifically, when the plateau phase arrives, and the woman is enjoying the current stimulation and desires more, both partners should be fully focused and continue the stimulation. The man may even need to provide more attention (such as to the nipples, as mentioned earlier). At this point, you might experience lower back pain, leg weakness, numbness in your wrists, profuse sweating, or dizziness, but please persevere for a few more seconds, hold on a little longer, and the ultimate bliss will arrive. Many people may miss out on orgasm by just that one last push, leaving both partners frustrated. Because if you miss it this time, it may take much longer and more effort to build up the energy to that level again, and you might even find it impossible to feel that sensation again in the future.

Speaking of which, I have to repeat myself: sex is physically demanding, and you need to pay attention to exercise regularly, such as building muscle strength and endurance, and lung capacity (women need considerable lung capacity just to hold their breath; some women may not need to, but I personally like to accumulate energy this way, and it's very effective).

A friend commented that I'm obsessed with orgasms. Haha, I just saw Sister Equation's post and have some different opinions to share.

Many women feel that there's no need to force orgasms; as long as the relationship is good and there's pleasure, that's enough. This also makes men feel indifferent, since it's rumored that female orgasms are difficult, so nobody bothers to put in the effort. Personally, I originally didn't think I needed to reach orgasm every time, but my partner always insists on it until I do. Maybe the men I've met are more considerate, which has led to my habit of always reaching orgasm during sex. However, comparing the before and after gave me a new understanding of this issue. I remember in the early stages of my relationship with my first love, I often couldn't reach orgasm, and my stomach would hurt afterward. This is because when a woman is aroused, her pelvic area becomes congested with blood, and if she doesn't get complete release, it becomes bloated and painful, like menstrual cramps. In severe cases, it would even last until the next day. Later, whenever I could orgasm, this symptom disappeared. Moreover, scientific research has proven that orgasm can enhance a woman's immunity and has a good regulatory effect on psychology and emotions. Women who have never experienced orgasm are not only prone to depression, but also unlikely to crave sex, and are even more likely to experience frigidity. Therefore, female orgasm can play a significant role in a marital relationship. My conclusion is that orgasm is a key factor in making women love sex.

Therefore, I believe that women seeking orgasm is not being demanding of men, but rather starting from self-care and, more importantly, from maintaining the relationship between the two people. It's a win-win situation, so why not strive for at least one orgasm each time? Haha, achieving orgasm isn't that difficult. As long as you understand your own body well and communicate effectively with your partner, you won't always be struggling to find the knack. —Love her, give her an orgasm; cherish yourself, give yourself an orgasm! [

Standing

Position: For many, this position might be difficult, but I think it's very effective once you master the technique. I remember discussing this position in a friend's post, and I wrote down the specific points then, so I'll summarize them here. I learned this standing position from outdoor sex, and later extended it to indoor sex, where it's equally enjoyable, and even usable in bed. Generally, this position is easier if the height difference between the two people isn't significant, but even with a larger difference, you can compensate by elevating the woman's feet, such as by standing on a step, a large pillow, etc. The key is to stand stably to avoid affecting subsequent movements or even causing accidents. The basic position is: the man's legs are spread apart on either side of the woman's body, standing at the same level, with his knees slightly bent in a squatting position. Both partners should thrust their hips forward to facilitate vaginal penetration.] Because of the upper body leaning back, to maintain balance, the woman grips the man's shoulders with both hands, or holds onto a wall with one hand while gripping his shoulder; the man, on the other hand, holds the woman's hips with both hands, or uses one hand to caress her breasts.

During penetration, the woman's legs are slightly open, and the man focuses on applying force from below and diagonally upwards, with his knees bending and straightening elastically. Once fully inside, the woman can close her legs tightly, preventing the penis from slipping out during movement and enhancing clitoral stimulation. Both partners can take the lead at this point. When I'm aroused, I prefer to take the lead, with him supporting his hips and focusing on caressing or kissing my nipples. Because the legs are tightly closed, I can quickly thrust back and forth, creating a pumping motion. Compared to the missionary position lying flat on the bed, this position offers more freedom of movement and I don't have to expend too much energy resisting his restrictions. Therefore, I almost always reach orgasm quickly in this position. The position where

the man lifts the woman to stand up

is suitable for me because I'm not very tall and my weight has consistently remained around 96 kg, while my boyfriends are mostly quite robust (not just in appearance, but rather tall and thin, with good physical condition and a love for sports). However, this position might not be feasible if the woman is overweight or tall, while the man is less strong or physically weak. Personally, I think a height difference of more than 15 cm and a weight difference of more than 25 kg between the man and woman should be manageable.

I've discussed the key points of this position in a previous post, so I'll summarize them here. This position often evolves from the "lotus position," where the woman is initially sitting on the man's lap (he might be sitting on the bed or sofa), and after penetration, he lifts her to stand up.

After getting up, the man holds the woman's buttocks with both hands, arches his hips, and leans his upper body backward into a reverse arch shape, supporting the woman's weight with the strength of his hips and legs. The woman, on the other hand, clamps her thighs around his hips, wraps her legs around his waist, and hooks her arms around his neck or grabs his shoulders. At this point, it's important to maintain a certain degree of stiffness in your body—everyone knows that a heavily intoxicated person is the heaviest, and even five or six strong men might not be able to lift them because their body has no support. By keeping your back straight and your legs clamped together, your center of gravity naturally falls on his hips, corresponding to his support. This way, you don't have to waste energy searching for a support point, and it's very convenient for both of you to move around.

In fact, besides the woman's center of gravity falling on the man's hips, it also falls on his penis, which is the key to the effectiveness of this position. Gravity naturally presses the woman's pubic bone tightly against the base of the man's penis, resulting in significant pressure and friction on her clitoris. Compared to lying down or sitting, this pressure requires no conscious effort from either partner, making it more comfortable. All you need to do is maintain relative movement, such as in the standing position mentioned above. The man can grasp the woman's buttocks or thighs and thrust back and forth or rotate her; alternatively, the woman can take the lead, using her hands and legs for support and swaying back and forth and side to side.

Of course, this position is more physically demanding than standing face-to-face, so when the woman is in control, similar to the woman-on-top position, she'll need the man's help when she's close to orgasm, and the final push will mostly be completed by the man. Therefore, both partners should allocate their time and effort according to their individual physical condition. If the woman is in better shape, she can take the lead and may even reach orgasm on her own, while the man mainly supports the weight and enjoys the passion. If the woman is not in good shape, the man should take the lead until both reach orgasm. If neither of them is in good shape, they can divide the work, with the woman leading the movement at the beginning and the man taking over when they are close to orgasm. Alternatively, some people may not be able to reach orgasm, so they can stand for a while and then sit down or lie down on the bed, switching to the woman-on-top position. Let's talk about the "psychological G-spot." Although sex is a physiological activity, I believe that the arrival of orgasm is inseparable from the psychological state, which I call the "psychological G-spot." Regardless of gender, if emotions are properly regulated during sex and supplemented with certain sexual psychological suggestions, the body will become exceptionally sensitive, arousal will increase rapidly, and orgasm will be easily achieved. Therefore, I believe that for couples who have difficulty ejaculating or reaching orgasm, or who have become somewhat numb due to familiarity, seeking stimulation of the "psychological G-spot" is an effective solution.

So how exactly does one find the "psychological G-spot"? This varies from person to person and from time to time. Couples must communicate openly to understand each other and help each other find it. The phrase "varies from person to person" is perhaps easy to understand; everyone has different personalities and experiences, so the triggers that arouse their sexual fantasies will also be different. Why "varies from time to time"? Because, on the one hand, the "psychological G-spot" is dynamic and fluid, unlike the fixed physiological G-spot. Therefore, each person's "psychological G-spot" is not static. Someone who was previously interested in sexual stimuli may find it boring after a while, and fantasies of infidelity or even sadomasochism may be more arousing. Furthermore, everyone knows that sexual performance is closely related to emotions. Therefore, you need to understand your partner's state of mind before sex, especially what they are worried about or angry about. If they are extremely aroused, you can whisper sweet nothings in their ear about this issue to reassure them and even deeply move them. Their orgasm will likely follow. This is based on my personal experience, and the feeling was very strong, so I recommend it to everyone. I think this kind of spontaneous discovery is more natural and effective than deliberately seeking out a "psychological G-spot" stimulation method, and it won't feel awkward or difficult for either of you.

So, in short, the so-called "psychological G-spot" is ultimately about feelings. Couples with harmonious feelings and sufficient communication are more likely to find each other's "psychological G-spot" at any time, thus always finding new surprises and tacit understanding in sex, which in turn deepens their feelings for each other.

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