My husband wanted a divorce, but I disagreed. Then, after taking our son out for a while, he suddenly changed his mind and didn't want a divorce anymore.

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After my husband and I got married, I stayed in our rural home to take care of our elderly parents and child, while he worked away from home. We had no choice but to live apart.
Although my friends told me that living apart would inevitably affect our relationship, we had no other option but to continue like this, with our family at home.
When my husband first started working, his salary wasn't high, but he still gave me most of it every time. I knew it wasn't easy for him either; with living expenses, rent, and utilities, he had very little left. So I was very frugal and saved most of my money.
As time went on, he earned more and more, and he gave me more money for living expenses. However, although he gave me more money, we had less and less in common, and he came home less often. Sometimes he would only stay for a day or two, and our son became unfamiliar with him.
Later, to strengthen his bond with our child, he would take our son to stay with him for two months at a time, but he wouldn't take me with him.
He came back recently for our son's 7th birthday. After celebrating, my husband suddenly pulled me to sit on the sofa and said,
"I have another woman outside. Let's get a divorce."
I was stunned. I never expected him to divorce me. I gave up my career for this family and helped him take care of the family, and he wanted a divorce.
I had a huge fight with him and refused to divorce him, but he didn't say anything more and left the next day, taking our son with him.
During his absence, I thought a lot and realized the gap between us. Since he had another woman and no longer had feelings for me, divorce was inevitable and there was nothing I could do. So I called him and agreed to the divorce.
But after I agreed, he came back with our son and suddenly said he didn't want a divorce anymore. I thought he had changed his mind and realized how good I was to him. I asked him, "What about that woman?"
But he remained silent. Our son also said that we shouldn't get a divorce. Actually, I was a little reluctant and thought about forgiving him this once.
One day, I had just returned from outside and hadn't even entered the house when I overheard my husband on the phone. He said, "Let's wait a few days. I haven't asked her yet. My son said she has 200,000 yuan in savings, it can't be wrong." That
's when it dawned on me. My son must have seen my savings and told his father. And that's why my husband didn't want a divorce yet.
But that 200,000 yuan was all my hard-earned money, including my blood and sweat from odd jobs in the countryside. He actually lied to me for that money! Where did his conscience go?
My heart sank. After so many years of marriage, and now that we're about to divorce, he's scheming against me like this. I immediately decided to divorce him, even if he didn't.
Jiayi replied:
People always change. Your husband has no feelings for you anymore. What are you hesitating for? Just get a divorce. As for your savings, don't worry. You might as well collect evidence of his infidelity and make him leave with nothing. Don't hesitate, and don't be soft-hearted. My advice to you is:
1. Gather evidence of his infidelity.
It's clear your husband has no feelings for you anymore. Since that's the case, your decision to divorce is correct. However, before that, you must gather evidence to gain an advantage during the divorce proceedings.
2. Protect your son.
Regardless of whether you ultimately divorce, your son will be the most affected, and it will definitely have a significant impact on him. You must pay attention to this and try your best to protect him, counsel him, and, since he's older, you might tell him the truth.
3. Regarding the savings:
The savings are yours, and you must not give them to him. Of course, you must protect your legal rights through legal means. This is crucial. If you really don't know what to do, consult a professional lawyer.
After my husband and I got married, I stayed in our rural home to take care of our elderly parents and children, while he worked away from home. We had no choice but to live apart.
Although friends told me that living apart would inevitably affect our relationship, given our current situation—with everyone at home—we have no other option but to continue like this.
When my husband first started working, his salary wasn't high, but he always gave me most of it. I knew it wasn't easy for him; with living expenses, rent, utilities, he barely had any left. So I was very frugal and saved most of it.
As time went on, he earned more and more, and he gave me more money for living expenses. But even though he gave me more money, we had less and less in common, and he came home less and less often. Sometimes when he did come home, he'd only stay for a day or two, and our son seemed to have forgotten him.
Later, to strengthen his bond with our son, he would take him away to stay for two months at a time, but he wouldn't take me with him.
Recently, he came back for our son's 7th birthday. After celebrating, he suddenly pulled me to sit on the sofa and said directly,
"I have another woman. Let's get a divorce."
I was stunned. I never expected him to divorce me. I gave up my career for this family, helped him take care of the family, and he wanted a divorce.
We had a huge fight, and I was adamant about not divorcing him. But he didn't say much to me and left the next day, taking our son with him.
During his absence, I thought a lot and realized the gap between us. Since he had another woman and no longer had feelings for me, divorce was inevitable, and there was nothing I could do. So I called him and agreed to the divorce.
But after I agreed, he came back with our son and suddenly said he didn't want a divorce anymore. I thought he had changed his mind and realized how good I was to him. I asked him, "What about that woman?"
But he remained silent. Our son, standing nearby, also said that we shouldn't get a divorce. Actually, I was a little reluctant and thought I might forgive him this once.
But one day, I happened to come back from outside and, before I even entered the house, I overheard my husband on the phone. He said, "Let's wait a few days. I haven't asked her yet. My son said she has 200,000 yuan in savings, it can't be wrong."
I understood then. It must have been because my son saw my savings and told his father. And because of that, my husband didn't want a divorce for the time being.
This 200,000 yuan was all my hard-earned savings, including my blood and sweat from odd jobs in the countryside. He actually came back to lie to me for this money! I don't know where his conscience went.
My heart turned to ice. After so many years of marriage, and now we're getting a divorce, he's scheming against me like this. I made up my mind to divorce him right then and there; even if he didn't, I would.
Jiayi replied:
People always change. Your husband has no feelings for you anymore. What are you hesitating for? Just get a divorce decisively. As for your savings, don't worry. You might as well collect evidence of his infidelity and make him leave with nothing. Don't hesitate, and don't be soft-hearted. My advice is:
1. Collect evidence of his infidelity.
It's clear your husband has no feelings for you anymore. Since that's the case, your decision to divorce is correct. However, before that, you must collect evidence to gain the upper hand in the divorce proceedings.
2. Protect your son.
Regardless of whether you ultimately divorce, the one who will suffer the most is your son, and it will definitely have a significant impact on him. You must pay attention to this, try your best to protect your son, and counsel him. Since your son is older, you might consider telling him the truth.
Thirdly, regarding the savings:
the savings are yours, and you must not give them to him. Of course, you must protect your legal rights through legal means; this is crucial. If you really don't know what to do, consult a professional lawyer.

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