Open marriage – a flexibility in marriage [reprinted]

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Open marriage – a variation of marriage. A one-on-one relationship of sex and love is inherently a beautiful and ideal relationship. Two people, acting voluntarily, wholeheartedly, and exclusively love each other – this is ideal and perfect love. The problem lies in the fact that traditional marriage uses mutual possession and complete exclusivity as the fundamental principles of the marriage contract, forcibly requiring both parties to abide by them, depriving them of their freedom in sex and love, turning marriage into a cage. For the relationship to develop in a healthy direction, this fundamental principle must first be broken. This is where open marriage comes in. Open marriage is based on equality, freedom, and mutual trust between the spouses, abandoning the four major clauses of traditional monogamous marriage. "Open" means that neither spouse possesses the other exclusively; both are free and relatively independent, and can have other sexual partners.
If we examine monogamous marriages in real life, we will find that it is not uncommon for one or both spouses to have extramarital affairs. Both spouses, or one spouse, may even know that the other has cheated, but are helpless or turn a blind eye. Such marriages are, in effect, open marriages; they are simply operating underground. In open marriage, both partners openly admit their desire for extramarital sexual relationships and are given this right, no longer needing to be secretive or covert. Under this arrangement, both men and women can have sexual partners other than their spouses. This is actually very similar to the pair-bonding marriage that preceded monogamy. Therefore, in terms of tradition, this marriage model is the truly traditional one.
The main driving force behind humanity's shift from pair-bonding to monogamy was the law of direct inheritance. Under the conditions at the time, people could not distinguish the father of children in pair-bonding families, so they had to sacrifice sexual freedom, forming a one-on-one monogamous system. Now that this problem has been technically solved, returning to a model similar to monogamy is logical. Such marital relationships have long existed in Western countries, but they have not become the mainstream lifestyle. The advantage of this type of marriage is that it compensates for the shortcomings of monogamy, which requires mutual possession and complete exclusivity, allowing both parties to maintain freedom and independence, and freeing them from the traditional constraints that stifle love. It makes marriage no longer a prison for two slaves.
In this type of marriage, the relationship between the couple is based on the recognition that each other is their life partner (see "Redefining Partners"). They are long-term, close life partners, not just lovers or spouses in the conventional sense. This type of marriage allows both partners to have a complete and stable family, raise children, and have a stable economic foundation and emotional life; at the same time, they are not bound by this relationship and have full freedom. If both parties wish, they can maintain a completely exclusive sexual and romantic relationship. The key is that everything is voluntary, not forced. Whenever either party needs it, he or she can have other sexual partners, freely express their passion, and enjoy the rich and varied sexual feast brought by new partners.
If the Clintons lived in a society where open marriages are common, Mr. Clinton could openly admit to having a lover without concealing or denying it, or claiming that he had made a "stupid mistake"; his wife Hillary would not have to feel sad or "betrayed." Because in such a society, it is normal for married men and women to have lovers. Hillary knew that Mr. Clinton had a lover; Hillary herself did not have a lover, which was her own choice. Mr. Clinton has absolutely no reason to fear losing the presidency because of his sexual urges. Nor does the US government need to make a huge fuss and spend taxpayers' money over a president's one-night stand. However, currently, monogamous marriage and its associated concepts still dominate, and those entering open marriages are more or less influenced by these ideas, while also facing criticism or misunderstanding from parents and various social relationships. Furthermore, extramarital partners are also likely to view this relationship with outdated perspectives. All of this will affect the relationship between the two parties. Someone once reminded the parents of the man in an open marriage, "Your daughter-in-law has been played by someone else."
It should be both laughable and tragic for the person who said this. The liberation of human nature is the direction of social development, and open marriage is a direction of progress in marriage.

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