A Brief Discussion on Couples' Friendships [Reprinted]

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Couples making friends: As the name suggests, this means couples are making friends! It's about friendship! Couples share common interests and needs, and their friendships are mutual!
After marriage, the days of tender intimacy are over, replaced by the mundane realities of family life.
True maturity often begins after marriage. For a happy life, the couple strives to create their own warm home. The arrival of children, their nurturing and growth, all consume a significant portion of their youth. As they age and their family becomes more stable, they look back on their youth, only to find that youth and passion have faded!
In the process of growing up, we mature together, truly maturing. This process significantly changes our thinking compared to our youth: we develop our own opinions, perspectives, and convictions.
Shared life and a tacit understanding forge a unified philosophy: seeking happiness and passion in our lives. Sex is a major part of married life, an instinct for any animal, let alone humans.
Our ancestors, turning the pages of history, let's look: Xia, Shang, Zhou, Spring and Autumn Period, Warring States Period, Qin, Western Han, Eastern Han, Three Kingdoms, Western Jin, Eastern Jin, Northern and Southern Dynasties, Sui, Tang, Five Dynasties, Song—how many romantic tales unfolded within them! I'm sure everyone knows one or two. From emperors to commoners, how many anecdotes remain for our imagination... Even more remarkably, the trousers of women in the Han Dynasty court and scholar-official families were all open-crotch pants! Why? Historical records say it was for the convenience of passion...
Before the Yuan and Song Dynasties, our ancestors' sexual affairs were not as restricted as we are now. The era of true sexual repression began in the Ming Dynasty, and the Qing Dynasty's system largely followed the Ming Dynasty's. [But it was mainly the lower classes who were restricted. The court and scholar-officials still had many anecdotes...]
Now, looking back at history, we can find the diversity of our ancestors' sexual lives.
The shift in marital views on sex today demonstrates that we are all continuing the culture of our ancestors! That is the pure, natural, and beautiful realm of sexual culture!
Many accept the fact that couples can make friends, but when faced with real-life situations, some hesitate. I believe this is because their minds haven't yet reached that pure and natural state!
To achieve our ideal natural state, we must purify our minds, make them clear and decisive. Only then can the passion we truly pursue in life be truly manifested and realized!
If our minds haven't reached this level, I still advise you, at least for now, that it's not suitable to take this step.
Forcing it will lead to the situations many friends have mentioned in the posts: failure, frustration.
The concept of making friends is absolutely an elevation of love! A successful journey with friends will transform the relationship between husband and wife {in my personal opinion}. What will it transform into? It will transform them into a more loving couple, a respectful couple, plus a close, trustworthy, and intimate friend! This friend is irreplaceable. In other words, successful friendship can truly solve many marital and family problems! If this sublime mode of love can be correctly maintained, I believe this couple is absolutely the most sincere, honest, and loving couple in the world!
The purpose of friendship is to allow your beloved to experience true joy in life; always putting your beloved first is the right thing to do. When both of you sincerely reveal yourselves in the "natural" environment, that is our return to our true selves! It is a moment of unbridled, unrestrained enjoyment of our humanity! Between each other, there is no deception, no ulterior motives; we are openly enjoying the true meaning of life—that is the highest realm of friendship! At the same time, our own thoughts should be most fulfilled! Our path of friendship is truly perfect! Here, it is emphasized that both parties [regardless of the number of people] must be able to freely express their thoughts and actions without restraint, boldly letting go of all their thoughts and actions to achieve the ideal effect and realm.
If this is done for one's own pursuit and pleasure, then the nature of the relationship changes. That is unacceptable—it will lead to failure!
I ask you all: if a marital relationship reaches such a wonderful state, what marital or family relationship cannot be resolved? Reaching this level, the "sublimation of love" is no longer just talk; it's an expression of the heart! It truly represents a supreme sublimation.
Having written this far, I've run out of words. These words and thoughts are purely my personal reflections. If they contradict the thoughts and opinions of my friends, that's normal; everyone has their own mind and their own thoughts. [Unifying thought has always been an unsolvable world problem, haha.]
Final conclusion: In the "environment" of friendship, openly and unrestrainedly show yourself, express yourself, and freely write about your emotions and feelings. Looking back, you'll discover how great—vast and boundless—your love for the other person is! In this process, your own thoughts will find considerable satisfaction. The marital relationship transforms from a simple "marital relationship" to a "marital plus close friend relationship," bringing joy and harmony!
I believe there are no insurmountable obstacles in a marriage. Let's enjoy life easily, living according to our own preferred lifestyle! If we can reach this level, then all couples will be free:
husbands will no longer stray,
and wives will no longer be unfaithful!

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