A psychological perspective on cuckolded wives

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"Cuckolding" is a psychological disorder, not a "mental illness," but most wives describe it as such, which is unreasonable.
The academic term is "voyeurism." Of course, there are many types of voyeurism, but in my opinion, "cuckolding" is actually one of the less harmful types because it doesn't affect a person's social functioning, and there are no impairments in brain function or neurotransmitters in the central nervous system. While "cuckolding" can be categorized as voyeurism, there are some significant differences in their manifestations. For example, typical voyeurs show no interest in their partner's body, but many "cuckolded" individuals exhibit extreme fidelity to their partners. Regarding the
speculated causes, let me first explain why this is only speculation.

Because everyone's childhood memories, growth environment, and experiences are different, it's impossible to understand the specific causes without a deep understanding of a person's past; we can only speak generally about possible causes. This requires psychoanalysis.

1. There's a possibility that childhood family influence is a factor. In the case of "cuckolded wives," this influence is relatively minor. To avoid unnecessary family conflicts caused by wives reading this, I don't want to write about this part. If you have questions about this, we can discuss it later.

2. Emotional trauma experienced during adolescence and interactions with the opposite sex. This is quite evident in my conversations with many people, possibly due to a girlfriend's infidelity or a current partner's emotional or physical infidelity. Another possibility is the man's own delusions; constantly suspecting his girlfriend of cheating, the worry, fear, and suspicion about his girlfriend or wife's infidelity can actually lead to this situation.

3. Inferiority complex, especially regarding sex. Many people exhibit inferiority complexes about their sexual abilities and genitals. This long-term sexual repression and fear of losing a sexual partner can lead them to physically satisfy their partner, thereby maintaining their relationship both physically and legally.

4. The influence of pornography. There's not much to discuss here; watching too much Japanese film or television can lead to such fantasies.

5. Another group consists of couples who have been married for many years and have lost their passion for sex. Their wives, however, are just entering their prime sexually, and their allure and temptations make them perfect for showing off. Knowing it won't affect the family, they encourage and support their wives' dates.

The formation of "cuckoldry" is a very complex process, and it's not just about this. Many emotions and reactions develop in complex ways, and without a deep and detailed understanding, it's impossible to know how a wife should react. Since it's a psychological issue, even if you see a therapist, they will require the wife to help her husband with a correct and patient attitude.

The worst thing you can do is for the wife to respond with "Are you sick?" the moment the husband brings it up. I understand the wife's aversion, but if you deal with your husband with such emotions, over time, his psychological pressure will increase, and he might even start to wonder if he's mentally ill. As modern people, who doesn't have some psychological issues or barriers?
So don't just get angry, blame, and run away. Remember, he does love you; he knows his situation, but he can't get rid of it on his own. He needs your help. Understand "cuckoldry" rationally, correctly, and logically. Don't be afraid to talk about it.

Why not talk about how the husband should react? Because it's useless!
It's like telling a girl what kind of man she'll fall in love with and what kind of pain she'll suffer—the result is still the same; she still falls in love with that kind of man and suffers that kind of pain. Our childhood memories and life experiences determine our subconscious, and our subconscious determines how we judge and choose.

Based on my observations and feelings, if I had to describe men who are "cuckolded" in one sentence, they are a group of pitiful people driven by desire, lacking rationality, and yearning for inner peace.

If I had to describe how I view them in one sentence
, I would slightly modify a famous quote by Dostoevsky: "Nothing is easier than publicly condemning them, and nothing is harder than understanding them." They are a pitiful group of people. This psychological barrier is completely insurmountable on their own. Everything they do is try to find the simplest way to calm themselves down. Having this kind of desire is truly torturous.

However, they also lack rationality and are driven by desire. I must admit that many people with this predilection are actually quite well-off in terms of social status and economic conditions; those who are busy making a living every day don't have the energy to think about these things.

But once sex is involved, they often lose self-control. "When you're well-fed and clothed, you think of money." This group is often well-dressed in society, and some even have a certain social standing, but they still can't control this ever-growing desire.

Some people think what I'm saying makes sense, that they've found common ground, because I'm also a "green hater" (a term for someone who is cuckolded). I often retort, "Does studying psychology mean you're mentally ill?"

But after truly engaging with this group and communicating with many like-minded people, my understanding has deepened.

Often, those mockeries and ridicule stem from ignorance about us.

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