Interacting with multiple people requires a better mindset and qualities

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Recently, while browsing 69 (a Chinese online forum), besides a bunch of reposted, fantasized, and fabricated articles, there were also various posts complaining and even cursing. Based on my limited successful experience (only 3 times in total), I must share a piece of advice: the success rate of group dating (whether it's a single man looking for a couple, or a couple looking for a single man) is actually very low. Everyone should have a good attitude and manners. Even if the relationship fails or you are disappointed, I hope you don't bring this setback into your life. After all, this kind of thing should only be a spice of life, not your whole life.
For single men, never take online novels, fiction, or even pornography seriously. Never think that you can immediately have passionate sex with any woman or couple you meet anytime, anywhere. As the saying goes, "one general's success is built on the bones of ten thousand soldiers." Even if the online novels describe real experiences, don't ignore the countless failed "victims" behind the protagonist. You must establish this correct concept: the difficulty for a single man to find a couple is no less than finding a satisfactory job, or even less than falling in love and getting married. You must know that work and marriage both mean you have to take on responsibilities, and the law can protect the rights of the other party. In group sex, after the act, you can simply pull up your pants and leave. It's not that all single men are bad, but undeniably, according to public news reports, a very small number of single men have malicious intentions, harassing or even coercing couples afterward, causing them trouble and even pain. Therefore, couples must be more cautious when choosing a single man and need to carefully consider his options. Often, the first criterion for couples when considering a single man is: does he have good manners? Is he willing to respect the couple? Is he willing to listen to the couple? Will he cause trouble for the couple afterward?
Speaking of respecting the couple, many single men complain that couples have many requirements: young, handsome, with a large and long penis, and able to last a long time multiple times a night. Most importantly, the single man has to bear many expenses—hotel room fees, food and drinks, and even gifts. Aside from a few couples who charge fees, I think the other requirements of couples are normal and reasonable. Think about it. That husband went through so much trouble to marry her, and now he's gone to great lengths to convince her to accept another man. It didn't all come for free; he deserves all the credit and effort. Why should they be expected to accept anyone? Why should their wife be completely subservient to you just because you're satisfied? What's wrong with them making some demands? Finding a job is a two-way street; if you're not happy, you can look elsewhere. Why can't they have the right to choose and refuse? They're not sexually frustrated; they can still have a fulfilling life without you.
Regarding money, I think it's perfectly reasonable for the single man to cover the costs of hotel rooms and meals. Every single man with successful experience will admit that proactively covering these expenses is a fundamental condition for increasing rapport and improving the success rate of relationships. As far as I know, most couples who enter this circle are not short of money; on the contrary, their living conditions are much better than those of single men. But put yourself in their shoes. Those husbands have spent so much money (house, car, wedding expenses, living expenses...) to raise such beautiful wives, only to have them offer themselves up for you to mess around with, and you even expect them to pay you out of pocket? How can you be so shameless? Don't talk about splitting the bill; men who are poor and stingy don't deserve to be in this circle! Construction workers, go wash up and go to bed early; you can get up early tomorrow to carry a few more bricks. Single losers, hurry home and download some Japanese adult films; otherwise, your address
will be blocked. Let's talk about the initiative and attitude of couples. Many single men say that after adding couples as friends, they rarely chat, and often they're not even online. Even if they do chat a few times, they're often quickly blocked. In these situations, single men should be sensible; they're clearly not the other person's type. There are plenty of other options, and success is always waiting for you at the next turn. When you see couples online, single men should take the initiative to greet them and find topics to chat about. Don't immediately ask for photos, videos, or even to meet in person or have sex. Don't bombard me with questions like a busybody, and definitely don't talk about your sexual prowess. If the other person isn't available to chat or isn't responding, be understanding and back off. Many couples are used to being online invisibly, so if you feel the other person hasn't been online for a long time, a single man might try leaving a message to say hello and test the waters; you might get a pleasant surprise. If they don't respond to messages and are never online, either ignore them or block them. In short, chatting is a skill and an art; there are no ready-made strategies, only personal practice and flexibility. The better you chat, the higher the chance of a successful relationship; conversely, if the chat doesn't go well, move on to the next one.
Having discussed single men, let's talk about couples. Actually, for a couple to find a suitable and mutually satisfying single man is no less difficult than for a single man to find a couple, and may even be more difficult. Therefore, couples shouldn't accept everyone, but they also shouldn't be overly idealistic. Of course, unlike single men, many couples adopt a "better to have none than a bad one" attitude, hoping to meet a perfect single man. Couples certainly have the right to be picky, but they must accept the fact that the person they're looking for, while not entirely nonexistent, is extremely rare. They shouldn't use such high standards to criticize other single men who may have less desirable qualities. Most importantly, if single men see articles where pretentious couples look down on the world, they should simply ignore them and close the window.
Many couples with successful experiences have also experienced failure and disappointment. Like a salesperson promoting a product, the more successful they are, the more times they will fail. Often, couples only need to lower their expectations slightly to meet many decent single men. Of course, more often than not, the single man simply isn't perfect and cannot meet all the couple's expectations. Only by recognizing these harsh realities and accepting life's imperfections can we have the chance to occasionally encounter those rare, exceptional single men.
In conclusion, whether you're already in the circle, a newcomer striving to join, or even just casually browsing, everyone should approach group interactions with a positive attitude and good manners. Recognize reality, face difficulties, and accept imperfections to truly derive enjoyment and passion. Cherish every moment in group interactions. Finally,
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small self-promotion: Single male, 28, 175cm, 74kg. I'm not proud of my appearance, but rather of my inner qualities. I look forward to sincere exchanges with single women, couples, and lovers in Guangzhou, Zhuhai, and surrounding cities. Single men are welcome for pure exchange, but those constantly demanding resources should stay away; don't blame me for blocking them if you add me. Premium members can add me directly on QQ (please specify "69 Paradise" in the verification message). Lower-level members can leave a message here, and I'll selectively add you. I have many couples on my QQ, but many are impossible to connect with, and we barely exchange a few words. Even if we can't have a deep relationship, if you are satisfied with my character and inner qualities, then being close confidants who can chat well would be a pleasure, wouldn't you say?

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