Being single is not a passive status symbol. I'm sharing my 5-year journey as a single man with new couples.

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Let me start by making a plea! If you don't give me 30 points for this post, I'm really letting you down. Even after I got over 50 points and my post was featured, you didn't give me any more points, which really dampened my enthusiasm for creating content... *crying* At

the beginning of this experience-sharing post, I want to say something to everyone: if you're a couple looking for a handsome, rich, tasteful, capable,
good-service, and obedient man, I can only say that if you come with that mindset, no single man can satisfy you.

I've been using single men for quite some time now, from initially liking mature women to now... While I'm still relatively new to 69, I'm not the kind of person who comes here on a whim and disappears after the initial excitement. I often browse the website, looking at posts and statuses, and I've found that many couples' ideas directly lead to their failure.
There are many guides on the forum about how single men should approach relationships. Here, I want to share that relying solely on single men to solve these problems is far from enough. I want to share my views and my personal experience. Of course, these are not absolutes, and if any friends have other opinions, please feel free to share them. I hope we can discuss this issue rationally.

This forum has a lot of posts about what single men should do, but very few about what couples should do. I don't have much to say about single men; that's already been covered. So, I'll venture to write about what couples should do and what mindset they should have. We won't discuss special cases like having a threesome right after meeting—that's perfectly normal and sexually fulfilling, and I won't comment on that.

I still hope everyone can discuss this issue rationally. First of all, couples should never think that by using their wives for sex, they are superior to single men. This kind of thinking will directly lead to your eventual failure. Sex is never a one-person affair. Whether you ejaculate and she doesn't orgasm, it's absolutely unacceptable. A threesome is a three-person
affair. If you're satisfied, the single man is left out; if the single man is satisfied, the couple is left out. Putting everything else aside, everyone is out looking for excitement and fun; you can't just prioritize your own pleasure and ignore others. If you two don't share the same values, let me give you a serious example: if you, as a couple, enjoy BDSM and a single man can't accept it, and then you complain afterward that the single man isn't cooperative, then I can only say that you two are too hasty. You haven't understood the situation clearly, or you've concealed this fact. You should directly state what kind of single man you want. If you don't understand and haven't figured it out, and you want A but end up with B, then complaining is unreasonable. And then you have to insult B, saying how bad he is. How can you be so sure that all couples want A and not B? Of course, you also need to have some self-awareness. You can't say, "We're a couple, I think my wife is pretty, so I'll offer her to a single man for free. I need to find a rich, handsome, skilled, well-built single man who can provide services." Then I can only tell you that you basically have the same thoughts and mentality as many older single women. I've encountered many couples whose words and demands basically boil down to this: if a single man comes to provide services, he must provide me with satisfactory service. And if I question him and ask, "What about me?" they just say, "You've ejaculated, so you're satisfied. My wife has already been fucked by you, aren't you satisfied?" I want to say that the vast majority of normal single men are also looking for the thrill of a threesome. It's not that I can't find women; I'm just here to experience the feeling a threesome can bring. If that's the case, why don't I just go to my girlfriend? Or go to a nightclub to
pick up some girls? I could also spend some money to hire a prostitute, don't you think? Finally , for some couples who might still not understand, here

's a piece of advice: if you find a single man and you don't arouse him, or even suppress his interest, how can you expect him to perform well and provide good service? Secondly, as a couple, you must not be impatient and should not forget your initial goals. I met a particularly interesting couple on a forum who wrote in their blog. They originally came to find a single man with strong sexual ability to satisfy their sexually active wife. In the end, they met a man around 40 years old online. This man knew about spas and was wealthy. They went to high-end places together and ended up having sex. This man was indeed skilled, but he basically only ejaculated once and couldn't finish. When they got back, they posted a blog on the forum, cursing him out. Many people advised them to be more careful next time and also cursed the single man. After reading this, I felt this was self-inflicted and had nothing to do with the single man. Some couples need to carefully consider what kind of single man they want. Whether you want someone with a strong sex drive, someone handsome, someone with good taste—whatever you want is entirely your freedom. But don't stray from your path. If you want something with a "tough" taste and end up with a handsome guy, only to find after the encounter that he's not into that, then you can't blame anyone else. There's always a trade-off; that's definitely true.

Thirdly, please adjust your and your wife's mindset before seeking out a single man for a threesome. If you're not in the right frame of mind and don't want the single man to treat your wife like he treats your wife, you'll both end up unhappy. If your wife isn't ready for a threesome, or if you're both being taken advantage of by other men, and you force or coax your wife into having sex with another man, and she suddenly meets someone and thinks, "Honey, I want him to have sex with me," that's entirely possible. If your wife isn't prepared, the end result will also be unhappy.

Let me first share some of my own representative experiences, hoping that everyone can learn from them and avoid making mistakes. As a novice single man, I met a couple for the first time. We met online. Because our area is relatively small, he cherished our connection
. Plus, his wife always said I was her type, since she liked watching Korean dramas and had a Korean look. At the time, I was a complete novice and knew nothing. I had been with mature women a few times, but after seeing his wife's photos, I thought she was very beautiful and he seemed like a good guy, so we decided to go for it. After some time, we finally took action. But when we arrived, I discovered his wife's true colors; he had been pushing his ideas on her, and she felt pressured. (Here's a side note: based on my later experiences and accounts from some friends in the industry, if you and your wife aren't both prepared beforehand, and you're just hoping the single man will perform well on the spot to make your wife fall for you and become a slut like she does at home, I can only tell you that even Andy Lau couldn't achieve this.) When I arrived at his house, I found that his wife was a bit drunk. His brother said he had given her some alcohol. His brother had stripped her down to her underwear and she was hiding behind the closet. His brother was very embarrassed at the time, saying that she hadn't been drinking and was just being polite, but she became even more shy after drinking. I was also a bit shocked by the scene, after all, I was a novice, and it was his brother who had been acting as a go-between, making it seem like I was going to rape his wife. I won't go into details about the process, but his brother was quite proactive in letting me play with his wife alone. I licked his wife, and she became quite wet, but in the end, we couldn't try any positions because his wife just lay there without moving. In a threesome, the woman couldn't give oral sex, so I had to watch while my brother was doing it. When he tried to kiss his wife, she wouldn't open her mouth. The last time went on was quite long, and my sister-in-law was probably a bit sober and even more embarrassed. Basically, I only ejaculated once and then we stopped. My sister-in-law's attitude was, "If you want to play, then play; I'm not going to cooperate." We had known each other for a while, and being from Northeast China, the older man was quite particular and embarrassed. Seeing that I wasn't doing well, he kept saying he wasn't ready, and even suggested that he go out first so I could have a proper time with my sister-in-law. In the end, everyone was quite dissatisfied , and we parted on bad terms.

Although my first experience left me with a bit of a psychological scar, I never gave up on finding mature women online, but mature women are really hard to find. Eventually, I turned to threesomes. I've had a few on and off, and they were all pretty good. I even had a long-term relationship with a couple. I won't go into that now because most threesomes involve couples who
are a year old, and their thinking is basically, "If we don't go crazy now, we'll be too old to do anything else; we should try it while we still can." Here I met a relatively young couple, around 30 years old, the woman being quite young, just turned 30. We met online and chatted for a while. By then, I had some experience, and the couple had experience before, so I felt reassured. Because they were from different places, they hadn't had a chance to be together until the time was right, and I had been...
Having some free time, I accepted their invitation and went to their city. We met and got along very well, as we were already quite familiar with each other. We had dinner together, and I had a particularly enjoyable chat with my sister-in-law. She
kept saying how much she liked me and encouraged me to be more proactive. We had originally booked a hotel, but
because we were having such a lively and enjoyable time, she strongly invited me to her home, saying it would be more relaxing and fun there. They didn't have any children, so I went, as it's common for couples to have fun together. At her home, my sister-in-law, brother, and I took a shower together and had a great time. My sister-in-law has a very high sex drive, and during our play, she basically drove me a little crazy. However, my brother seemed a bit petty or perhaps protective of his wife, constantly telling me not to be too rough, and during oral sex, to be careful not to penetrate too deeply. This made my sister-in-law even urge me to go all out, but I was too scared in the end. At first, things went well, and I understood my husband's concern for his wife. However, I have to say, my brother was practically on a sadomasochistic level. He's getting on in years, and he ejaculated 3 or 4 times—I can't remember exactly—but he just couldn't keep going. In the end, it was just my sister-in-law and me. She has a very strong sex drive and kept asking me. It's not that I'm particularly strong, considering I'm young, but maybe we're just very compatible, and I always managed to bring her to orgasm easily. During breaks, I don't know why, but my brother seemed a little unhappy, and we started arguing. He said he'd never seen her so sexually active before. She wouldn't back down, and seeing the situation getting out of hand, I
quickly intervened and didn't dare continue with her. In the end, maybe because my brother felt I'd come specifically for the fun and we were both quite satisfied, I didn't want to cause a scene. After that day, I didn't continue with my sister-in-law. She even said not to worry about my brother, that we could just have our own fun, but I politely declined and went back to the hotel. I went home the next day. After that, when I got home, I chatted with my sister-in-law online and found out that my brother was a little jealous. My sister-in-law also confessed that she really liked me. We were probably getting too passionate, and sometimes I left my brother out of the picture, which made him unhappy. In the end, as you probably know, it basically ended badly.

Let's not talk about the quality of single men, or whether they're all about penises and genitals right away. You can't deny that many couples like that. They don't come online to discuss or research with you; they come online to find like-minded people to vent their hidden emotions. Many couples fundamentally believe that because they are a married couple and have given their wives to the other single men, they are inferior and should obey their will and serve them. I want to say to such couples with absolute certainty that you will never experience the pleasure of a threesome. And I can only say that you are just a pseudo-threesome enthusiast; you're probably just driven by lust. Of course, I understand that everyone wants their partner to comply with their will. However, people who want or enjoy threesomes never feel that they are at a disadvantage when their wives are being taken advantage of. In their eyes, they just want to witness their wives being taken advantage of or even abused; that's what satisfies their desires. In this forum, I hope everyone can express their complete mindset and needs. This way, you can find the most suitable couple or single man for you.

Finally, I wish all couples and single men can find their ideal partner on 69. As always, if you have any thoughts, we can discuss them rationally. I'm just sharing some of my experiences to help new couples avoid some detours.

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